How to Make Him Value You Sincerely
Making people value and respect you, especiallythe guy you have been crushing on, takes a bitmore work than jumping up and down, saying, “Pick me! Pick me!” There is a bunch of silly adviceout there that involves tricking guys into falling for a version of you that does not exist. If you reallywant him to see you for who you are and value you immensely, you need to be what he does notknow he needs.
Sounds difficult, right?
Some people call this the “save the day” method. I call shenanigans. Saving people is great and all, but you are not a Wonder Woman. Do not overextend yourself for someone, even when you aretrying to make them see what you can deliver. That leads to a bizarre game of give-and-take, wherehe takes everything and you receive nothing in return. So, if you really want him to respect and valueyou, do the following:
1. Be comfortable in your own skin
Men are attracted to women who not only have confidence but pride in who they are, where they arefrom, and what they have done. Confidence is so much more than dressing a certain way. When youcan humbly and intelligently piece together conversation, he will value you more, because of theinsight and quality of discussion you can provide.
Confidence in your skills for fixing tires or cooking ethnic food, for example, is also something he willfind interesting and of value. By the way, if he is not interested in real, stimulating conversation, Iguarantee you that he is only looking for booty.
2. Provide solutions, not blame
This is a trick that works with everyone. People do not like listening to complaints. Ever. Men do notlike women who endlessly rant about something that happened to them half a week ago. To them, you look petty and bigoted. So, instead of laying blame on others, you need to first learn how toactively accept responsibility for your own muck ups. Second, you need to be able to solve problems – your own and his.
3. Understand what he needs
I am not talking about sex or money or anything like that. Men and women both want meaningfulrelationships with people they can trust. Whether he realizes it yet or not, you can be that person heturns to in the rainstorm and knows you will have an umbrella to shelter him. Also, you need tounderstand what drives him, what his likes and dislikes are, and remember that information. Ultimately, his personality will drive his desires.
4. Earn value by giving value
By giving respect to him and those around him, you show that you too are worthy of respect. Givehim kindness, even if he has yet to return that kindness on the same level. Just remember that youcannot win everyone over, but being arrogant only worsens the chances of him respecting you.
Another way this works is to figure out one thing he does well, like making you laugh. Next time yousee him, say, “Hey, I was wondering if you had any new jokes? You always make me laugh, and Ireally need to laugh right now.” This will strike him because, one, not many people might actuallyunderstand his style of humor, and two, you see worth in one of his hobbies.
5. Keep your word
Think about how many broken promises you have encountered throughout the years and howbummed you were to be on the affected end. When you say you are going to do something for him, like let him borrow a book, follow through with it. Not only will it surprise him, but it shows you keepup the end of the bargain. Eventually, he will see value in your honesty and devotion to being a goodcompanion.
Value and respect are two main drivers in forming up lasting, healthy relationships. You always wanta man that sees your worth as a human being, and who respects your abilities. Sometimes, guysneed an extra push in the right direction, but by doing these five actions, you will be the ray of lightin his sight in no time.